Second Life has ruined my son's life!!!!

Tags: Second Life + RPG games + online gaming + games

MelodyL
MelodyL posted on Dec 3rd 2007 5:22PM

I am the mother of a 26 year old young man. He moved away from home at the age of 20. I have no idea if Second Life was around 6 years ago, but let me make one thing perfectly clear. Second Life should be banned from every home everywhere. It is an addiction that takes hold and takes over one's life. I had no clue what my son was doing. He is 26, does not work, gambles, and goes on the computer. That is his life.

He was diagnosed with Aspergers Disorder when he was 21. He was not living at home at the time. It seems that many people with Aspergers do not like other people, do not like to socialize, and choose, as their avatars, Androids in Second Life. Do any of you know what it is like to have a child, and then lose that child to a compuer virtual reality world? I know what this is like. It has happened to me and my family. I do not know who my son is anymore. I don't even know what he looks like. He doesn't care about anything but Second LIfe. I believe he lives, sleeps and eats this virtual reality world. I joined it, just to see what the heck he was doing all day. I had to choose an avatar, and there was my son, inviting me to go flying with him. I admit, it was nice for about 10 minutes. Going shopping and such. It's a nice place to get away for an hour or so once in a while. But to live in this world, to never leave your home, to have no friends, to not have a girlfriend. To not exercise, walk around the block, etc., well, you must understand. This is the same as drinking, drugging, or gambling. It's an addiction. It destroys families.

My son went to college and is brilliant. As are most users in Second Life, I would imagine. But to not see your mother for 6 years. To not call your father when he is in the hospital. To actually tell your parents, "you are no longer a priority in my life". Well, to me, the founders of Second Life should be arrested and put away for life.

They have destroyed families. Shame on them.

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moondust says:

Second life has it ups and down's but for me i found a whole new wrold here and now i have foun my husbond to be here and were getting married soon
Posted: 03/30/10 19:57

MelodyL

MelodyL says:

Let me tell you something interesting that I just found out. I had never knew this before. I found a website named OLGA, Online Gamers Anonymous. Well, every single parent is going through what I went through. There are also people who have lost husbands and wives due to Second Life, World of Warcraft, etc. It seems that all this video games change the domanine level in the brain and the kids can't stop, and if you try and take the game console away, the kids rebel and some even attack the parents.

This is very serious. Video gaming is addictive, and more important, these virtual reality worlds are ADDICTIVE. I do not believe my son has aspergers. My son's behavior fits EXACTLY what these parents are discussing. These parents are going through hell. Kids are not going to school, they are not getting off of the computer, or playstation. All they do, day and night is play games. One young man does not see his family any more. His parents are broken hearted. I now know that my son is absolutely 100% a Gaming Addict. I have nothing more to say. There are no rehabs yet for this kind of addiction. Because every single household buys these consoles and computers for the kids. Think about it. When does a kid start smoking? At about 14 or 15 (to be cool, to fit in, WHATEVER).

When does a kid start using video games. FROM THE AGE OF 3.

They get them hooked young.

They should be arrested. Go online and do the research if you don't believe that I have written. Oh and all these gaming addicts have the same Mantra.... I can quit whenever I wish, I'm not an addict, I can quit. AND THEY NEVER DO!!!
Posted: 03/31/10 08:32

simranzenov

simranzenov says:

Hi I am about your sons age. I'm 27 years old and I have been playing video games since I was 6 and know how your son probably feels. Even now I play online games all the time. Games are not the enemy. Do you watch TV? It's the same thing. Games play your emotions just like movies. It's all for fun and enjoyment. It's entertainment. I play games online every day(sometimes all day if I'm off work), yet still I managed to get my computer programming degree. I am happily married, and I still have time to visit my family. You really should not blame the games. If he's playing games to avoid family, friends, and life, then most likely your son is severely depressed and might need help. The games are probably the only thing keeping him from killing himself. At least it's games and not drugs.
Posted: 06/16/10 21:15

MelodyL

MelodyL says:

The following line (which you wrote) says it all!!!!

"and I still have time to visit my family."

Are you out of your mind? YOU STILL HAVE TIME TO VISIT YOUR FAMILY????

Go to:

olganon.org and you'll see WHAT A GAMING ADDICTION IS.

Just go there and read the posts.

This gaming industry is ruining families.

My son is an addict, and so is anyone who stays on the computer most of the day and night, playing in fantasy worlds, dealing with fantasy people, and not living their life.

You can delude yourself all you want.

Check out the website. Maybe THEN you'll get an idea of how much PC video gaming, such as WOW and Second Life, are RUINING families, marriages, etc.
Posted: 06/17/10 07:14

MelodyL

MelodyL says:

Oh and one more thing I had recently found out. All these people being diagnosed with Aspegers actually ARE ADDICTED TO GAMING. They never leave their rooms, they never get off the computer, they have no social life whatsoever. So pychiatrists (who know nothing about gaming addictions), pronounced them as having Aspergers. I read an article about how this is now changing. They now see this addiction for what it is!!!

A gaming addiction. People spend thousands of dollars INSIDE the game, not to join, but to PLAY THE GAME. Buying virtual weapons, gathering virtual clans, meeting and (sometimes leaving their marriages ) for VIRTUAL PEOPLE.

I read a message that one wife did not see her husband for days. He never saw their children, he would NOT get off the computer. And here's another clue.

When you try and get a 17 year old off the computer by taking it away, or unplugging it, and he GOES VIRAL ON YOU AND HITS YOU,

Then believe me, THIS IS A PROBLEM.

It's an addiction.
Posted: 06/17/10 07:32

Axeloakleaf

Axeloakleaf says:

I'm on Second life and i know you can earn a lot of money from it. Like Anshe Chung and whatnot,so don't put it down,right now there is a contest at one club for L$10,000.00 which translates to a lot in real money. Hopefully i win the money today and prove everyone wrong. BTW,yiff in heaven Furrfriends!
Posted: 06/28/10 16:46

Axeloakleaf

Axeloakleaf says:

BTW,Why can't i remove posts i don't like anymore?
Posted: 06/28/10 16:47


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